How many times have you said, “I’ll catch up on sleep later”? How often have you pushed through exhaustion, thinking you could handle it? The job demands everything, but your body is keeping score. Brain fog, stress, aching joints: they don’t go away. And at some point, you might push yourself over too far. For firefighters, it isn’t just about running into burning buildings. It’s missing birthdays, smoke inhalation, and the constant weight of life-or-death decisions. The job drains energy, steals sleep, and damages health. Bryan Willingham thought he could push through it all—until he couldn’t.

As a firefighter, paramedic, and union president, Bryan was the guy everyone relied on. But the stress piled up. The exhaustion became unbearable. His body and mind were screaming for help, but he didn’t listen.

He couldn’t ignore it forever.

In 2021, Bryan hit rock bottom. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Overwhelming stress. Suicidal thoughts. He was drowning. That’s when he realized: If he didn’t change, he wouldn’t survive.

So, he did something that many firefighters don’t: he decided to prioritize his health first. And it worked. Now, he’s sharing the tools that helped him heal so others can do the same.

“Learning what was happening to my brain was key to being able to receive and accept treatment. If I hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t have.”

Bryan Willingham

The Hidden Cost of Ignoring Your Health

Firefighters face constant challenges that most people don’t understand. They battle silent killers: toxic exposure, extreme stress, and continuous sleep deprivation. They all take a massive toll, leading to:

• Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression: The brain rewires itself after repeated trauma, making it harder to process stress.
• Sleep disorders: Constant adrenaline spikes destroy sleep patterns, leaving firefighters running on fumes.
• Toxic buildup: Cancer rates in firefighters are sky-high due to constant exposure to dangerous chemicals. In the Phoenix Fire Department alone, cancer screenings found 7 to 8 cases for every 100 firefighters tested. That means right now, at least 70 firefighters are walking around with cancer and most don’t even know it yet.
• Heart disease and aging: Chronic stress and poor sleep shorten life expectancy of firefighters.

Here are a few strategies Bryan used to start his healing process:

• Infrared sauna therapy: Detoxifies the body, reduces inflammation, and improves circulation.
• Cold plunges: Lowers stress, improves mood, and resets the nervous system.
• Magnesium supplements: Supports muscle recovery, stress relief, and better sleep.
• Red light therapy: Boosts cell repair and reduces inflammation.
• Ketamine therapy: Rebalances trauma responses and resets mental health.

Bryan and his wife say that buying a sauna and a cold plunge was the best investment they’ve made for their health. The setup was a breeze, the quality was top-notch, and the results after just a couple of weeks were transformative.

For Bryan, the routine is simple: heat up, sweat it out, then dive into the cold. His wife loves the deep muscle relief and soaking in all the healing heat benefits and how amazing her body feels.

“There was a time when I had all that shame, and it only created more stress. When I woke up out of a dead sleep, I didn’t even feel it coming. I was still in that mindset: I’m a fireman. This isn’t for me. I signed up for this. I love this job. But the stress of all these things happening in life just kept building up on me.”

Bryan Willingham

Breaking the Silence: Firefighter Culture and Mental Health

Firefighters see things most people can’t even imagine. The drownings. The mangled bodies in car wrecks. The families watching their homes go up in flames. The ones you couldn’t save.

Over time, it builds. It festers. Bryan describes it as years of suppressing emotions and never giving yourself a moment to process the weight of what you’ve seen.

For him, it all came crashing down in 2021. It took a Navy SEAL friend of his to tell him that post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), whether it comes from war zones or firefighting.

The fire service is built on courage, loyalty, and sacrifice. But somewhere along the way, those values got twisted into something dangerous: the idea that real firefighters don’t break, that talking about trauma is weak, and that if you can’t handle it, you don’t belong.

Bryan calls this out for what it really is: most people just don’t understand how the brain works.

To regulate your nervous system and start healing, consider these tools:

• Deep breathing techniques: Activates the parasympathetic nervous system and reduces stress.
• 432 Hz music: Shown to reduce anxiety and promote relaxation.
• Dopamine Reset Practices: Reducing constant stimulation (social media, caffeine, alcohol) helps the brain rebalance.
• Community Support: Talking to those who get it is important. Isolation makes post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) worse.
• Meditation: A great way to reconnect with yourself and clear your mind after a long day.

“In the olden days, firefighters would show up, play volleyball, and kill some time during a 24-hour shift. You’d get a few calls, but overall, there was downtime. But that’s not the case anymore. Today, you’re not getting that rest. Now, you have sleep deprivation.”

Bryan Willingham

Sleep: The Unsung Hero of Recovery

Most people work 40 hours a week. That’s 2,080 hours a year. Firefighters? They’re clocking in 2,912 hours, at minimum.

And because staffing shortages are a massive issue, mandatory overtime is unavoidable. You can’t run a fire truck with three people instead of four.

If someone calls in sick, that position has to be filled. No exceptions.

This means these guys are working 24, 48, or even 72-hour shifts on repeat. No sleep. No recovery. Just call after call after call.

Lack of sleep isn’t just an inconvenience, it’s a crisis.

The research is clear: Chronic sleep loss destroys mental health. It rewires the brain, intensifies trauma responses, and makes you age faster. 

Here’s what helps improve sleep:

• Create a sleep routine: Set a consistent bedtime, even if your schedule is unpredictable.
• Limit screen time before bed: The blue light messes with your circadian rhythm.
• Try magnesium before bed: It calms your nervous system and promotes deep sleep.
• Prioritize deep rest: Even if you can’t get eight hours, quality matters more than quantity.
• Blackout your room: No light, no distractions.

The Wake-Up Call

Firefighting takes a toll, but it doesn’t have to destroy you. You don’t have to accept post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), exhaustion, and chronic pain as the price of the job. Your body and mind are your most important tools. Take care of them, and they’ll take care of you.

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Bryan Willingham Bio:

Bryan Willingham is a seasoned firefighter with over 32 years in service, Captain Paramedic, and the Union President for Local 493 – The United Phoenix Firefighters Association, representing 2900 firefighters in the Phoenix area in 6 cities.

He is a husband, father of 5, and grandpa to Buttons, his 20-month-old granddaughter.

Connect with Bryan Willingham:

• Email: bw*********@lo******.org

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